A plea for help.

Hey guys.

I feel like I want to talk about a subject tonight that is extremely serious. If you are reading this it means I have come to the decision that I should share my thoughts on this, if not then it will soon be collecting dust in my 'drafts' section.

For a long time now I have been approached for advice on many things, being told that my advice was refreshing because I didn't sugarcoat things. This isn't me trying to big myself up in any way.. in fact I think my advice can be pretty much useless at times. However I don't like feeling helpless so I try and do what I can to help.

Thats what I want to talk about today. For those of you who know me, you know I'm not always happy, or myself.. this being said I am a teenager and a huge deal of this I can get away with blaming on hormones. However I wanted to write this post to explain a few things.. here goes nothing I suppose.

1. You are loved.

2. You are precious.

3. You are worthy of life.

4. People around you do love and care for you.

5. It's okay to put yourself first.

6. Sometimes things happen for a reason.

7. You are going to get through this.

8. Do not struggle alone.

9. It may feel like the end of the world right now, but its just the beginning.

10. It's okay to cry.

Every time someone comes to me in confidence I find myself saying these things automatically, it helps soothe the other person but also because I believe so strongly in them. I want to go through these step by step so maybe you can understand from my perspective. Even though everybodys situations are different.

1. Somebody out there does love you. It may not feel like it at the moment, you may feel incredibly alone... however there is always somebody you can talk to. I am very lucky to have an amazing and supportive youth group, whom I know I can go to if there is ever anything wrong. Find that person and confide in them. The first step to getting better is letting somebody help you, sometimes it just feels better to tell someone. Even if its just a stranger, because they do not know you it is easier for them to give a true opinion on what you are struggling with.

2. You are so precious, to so many. God created your whole life before you were even born; he knows you better than you know yourself. He knows what mistakes you have and will make and he knows what achievements you will bring. You are so precious to those around you. You have made such an impact on them, they do not wish to see you in pain.

3. You are worthy of life.. This is mainly aimed to those who have ever thought about ending their life, because the world seems so bitter. Trust me I know. You are worthy of the life you were given, take that life and change it into something were you want to get up every morning. I know it may seem impossible, but I believe in you. You will get there.

4. People around you do love and care for you. I know sometimes it feels like you are the only person that is suffering because everyone else looks so happy. Everyone deals with their own battles. I recently found out  that someone I love very much is going through something very hard. I had no idea because they always seemed so positive and happy. They are not alone either, and I hope that if they read this they will get something out of what I am saying; Remember I love you <3

5. It is okay to put yourself first. When you are constantly putting everyone else before yourself sometimes it can damage you. Now this isn't me telling you to be selfish. But sometimes putting yourself first is the healthiest thing to do. Afterall this is your life & you want to lead it well.

6. I believe everything happens for a reason, for example; My father died 3 years ago, I was a mess; however that happening to me has made me into the strongly minded person I am today, Although it was heart-breaking and still is. I am able to relate and help people that are going through similar things, giving them the support and help I wish I had.

7. You are going to get through this.. at the moment it seems like the ends of the earth, but I promise you; this time next year (hell even next month.) this will seem like the smallest thing in the world, because so many bigger and better things will be happening. This isn't me dis-regarding any problems you have now however I promise you it gets better.... it may never be okay; but it will get better.

8. Please do not struggle alone, like I have said before... there is someone out there that can help you. If all is lost please feel free to contact me somehow, I am more than happy to listen and help you get through anything you are struggling with right now.

9. This is just the beginning of  all the things that are yet to come your way.. think of the next thing you are looking forward to, no matter how small and keep thinking towards that moment. It's the beginning of something amazing for you.. I promise.

10. Don't think its deemed as weak to cry. Let your emotions out because trust me it feels so much better (par the headache) afterwards, sometimes you just need to cry & feel something. No-one is judging you. It's okay to feel vulnerable.

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I'm aware my posts haven't been very beauty inspired recently however, I never wanted it to be based purely on reviews. I'm here to help and give advice when needed. If you ever need someone to talk to then I am always available. Leave a comment down below whether or not you think I should write more about these things in the future, and if you have any advice of your own do the same :)

Go out change the world, and be the best you, that you can be today.

Love Char xo